Intimacy Without Responsibility

Do you find it difficult to speak your truth to the one you love? Do you often censor your true feelings so you don’t hurt someone else? In relationships, it can be challenging to be authentic with others, and we end up hiding our joy, pain, truth, or love. We would rather be enmeshed with them in fear of being abandoned. We might also find it hard to let go of our desire to save or fix them instead of taking care of our own well-being.

After 20 years of working with transpersonal group therapy, I understand the importance of identifying the roles we play for one another and setting personal boundaries within relationships. Having intimacy without the responsibility for others is about practicing the art and skill of freedom within the relationship, and moving toward more love and self-care. When we truly heal and take care of our own issues, we’re able to love more deeply.

Express Yourself Honestly and Openly in Your Relationships

This course is about learning to be in a relationship without taking responsibility for another person's feelings or pain (or even their success or joy). Through daily teachings, mind intervention practice videos, and assignments, you will become the master of the enlightened relationship. You will move past your fear of being real and experience the conscious evolution of love, which includes deep integration of the universal spiritual principles of relationship attraction and being.

I have designed this course to help you:

• Be in a relationship without taking responsibility for another.
• Practice the art and skill of freedom in the relationship.
• Express feelings as an act of sacred communication and intimacy.
• Become clear about the conscious and unconscious games and roles we play.
• Reimagine and reframe relationship pain.
• Love and take care of yourself.
• Feel the mystery and sacred space that conscious relationships create for us.
• Experience love as a conscious evolutionary process.

Discover key relationship principles within:

• Speaking your truth
• Embracing feelings
• Wound reenactment
• Intimacy boundaries
• Responsibility vs. blame
• Letting love in

Changing Your Story

Experiencing freedom within a relationship, whether it be with an intimate partner, family member, friend, or colleague, happens when you come to understand that you are here on this Earth for your own soul's evolution and not to caretake others. It is time to let go of the old habits of thinking that you need to save, fix, or protect others, or that you need to be whatever they want you to be. Even though taking care of someone else could be rewarding, it usually becomes a burden sooner or later. Some people learned to do this because they had to in order to survive. However, the past doesn’t need to define how you currently interact in relationships. You can change your story!

Your personal myths will give way to the understanding that:

• It’s possible to speak your truth, have a voice, and reprogram conscious and unconscious beliefs that say you are responsible for another person's feelings or happiness.
• You can discover and live your passions, mission, and purpose, and become committed to your own wholeness and still deeply love someone else.
• Every relationship you have is an opportunity for healing and transformation.

Learning to Speak Your Truth

The greatest freedom in the world is being able to be emotionally honest with others and, of course, with yourself. When you can express your real feelings, your body is so happy and healthy. If you hold in your real feelings because you are afraid of someone else's reaction, you are not being real or honest or authentic, and you begin to lose parts of yourself.

Some important messages to communicate might sound like:

• "I need to really focus on my own passions and dreams."
• "I really want to be true to myself."
• "I want the freedom to do or be whatever I want without fear that you will not like it or that you will reject me."
• "I really want to love you and connect more and more deeply."
• "I want our relationship to be healthy"
• "I do not want to be the one taking care of you, nor do I want you to feel responsible for me."

Opportunities to Grow

It is perfectly healthy to care about how someone feels. Most humans genuinely care about other people's pain and sorrow. And we all want to be happy and wish for our loved ones to be happy. The thing is, we are all here on our own journey through life, in order to evolve our soul. Opportunities arise all the time for people to discover their deeper powers. Pain, challenge, change, sorrow, loss, and grief are often the things that open a person to their inner power and strength. When we shield our loved one from pain or hurt, we are taking away their opportunity to discover their greatness!