It's Not My Fault, It's Yours
We all know the feeling. You have a disagreement with a relative, significant other, colleague, or friend – and when you’re confronted about it, you try to listen and be reasonable. But still, a little voice inside your head screams “It’s not my fault. It’s yours!”
Finger-pointing is a common human tendency, and there are good reasons why we all do it. It feels good to be right - and if you’re right, it means that you’re fine just the way you are, your thoughts and emotions are logical and make sense, and there’s no need to change anything. Plus, it feels better than the shame of being in the wrong, or having to acknowledge that your actions may have hurt another person. However, sometimes it’s genuinely not our fault, and it feels really bad to be falsely accused or misunderstood.
The truth is, the fault line can often be thin with the potential to wreak havoc on personal and professional relationships. So, if you’re someone who tends to blame others, get blamed, or you struggle with the question “who’s fault is it?”, this course will give you the knowledge, skills and confidence to liberate yourself from self-destructive thoughts and behaviors for good.
Using inner exploration and better communication, you’ll get to the bottom of why you and the people around you find fault, why we resist taking responsibility, and how to keep the blame and shame game from exploding your relationships. You’ll learn how to untangle the fault knot, so you can take responsibility for your own experience, mistakes, or assumptions - without taking on other people’s baggage. More importantly, you’ll find out how to avoid common fault traps, and you’ll learn how to expertly navigate disagreements that avoid blaming altogether. You’ll also dig into whether there is such thing as a victim, and how to set boundaries with or, if necessary, walk away from people in your life who seem to constantly find fault with you.
Finally, you’ll learn how to genuinely apologize, when and why to forgive, and how to begin to rewrite your story about personal challenging relationships so that you can experience deeper, more empathetic and respectful connections with romantic partners, family members, friends, colleagues and others throughout your life.
During the course, you will explore:
- Why and how we get stuck in blaming cycles.
- Who we often blame, and whether we’re justified in doing so.
- How finger-pointing impacts relationships.
- How to understand and sort through projection so that it doesn’t cloud interpersonal conflicts.
- How to repair relationships in a fault-finding atmosphere.
- How to identify the feelings beneath the fault.
- How to understand and express thoughts and feelings without finger-pointing.
- How to listen with an open heart and mind in a way that stops the blaming cycle.
- How to set boundaries and not take on the burden of other people’s projections.
- How and when to apologize and forgive.
- How to reframe your narrative about challenging relationships.
Remember, for every finger pointing outward, there is also one pointing inward. The goal of this course is to realign your hands with your heart, so that one palm can be open and receptive to your role and responsibility in interpersonal conflicts, and the other can set a loving boundary so we don’t take on blame that doesn’t belong to you. Let’s get you started on this insightful and highly beneficial journey today!
